So the thing is, as ever, life goes on.
And there is nothing more annoying, or self-defeating,than a whinger. Someone who goes on about how others have hampered them. OTHERS stood in their way. Others did this and that blah blah blah...
It is true that you carve your own path, and anyone who says "OH MY! Me mammie held me back, "(or any one else) is just employing excuses.
So that is not what I've been trying to say in my last posts. Whatever I have done, was what I wanted to.
Whatever dysfunctional relationships I've had in the past, which I've continued (not disfunctionally, but continued the relationship at a distance on my terms), I was aware of...and new ones have been largely functional. And happy.
So I go forth...but everything changes. Death brings change and new life. One day I will be able to articulate this better........:)